Saturday, May 8, 2010
Try sleeping with a broken heart
For the past eight months I have been without my daughters and boy have I suffered during this time. They are spending time with their dad. Tomorrow is a sad day for me because I cannot spend it with my kids. One thing that bothers me as a mom is to see how their dad is spoiling them. He does have more than what I can offer them, but I can sense in my oldest how she is turning to be so selfish. I can tell how she doesn't appreciate things. As a parent I am concerned because when they return home I will have to deal with all the nonsense that comes with this behavior. Do you think I am overeacting and what advice can you give me? I am so stressed out and I am finding myself surrounded by obstacles, I am beginning to forget who I am.
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Wow Dee!
ReplyDeleteWhen I heard this song by Alicia Keys, it put me in a melancholy mood, kind of serene. Your post is having the same effect. Eight months is a long time, I don't want to get too personal; but, how much longer will he have them? How often does he keep them? Does he always keep them this long? Anyway, you have two beautiful daughters, how old are they? You should sit down with your daughter's (and possibly their dad) and have a heart to heart talk with them, and explain to them what you are feeling, ask them to work with you, and not against you. They love you just as much as you love them. Sometimes, our children can't see what we see. A good family pow-wow, over an ice cream cone or something, will do wonders, try it, it can only help. Take Care!
Hi Dee, I feel like I am going through the same thing except my soon to be husband lives with me. I feel like I have to be the bad guy and he gets to give her what ever. I do not think that you are overreacting, because there dad should also teach them that things are not free and they have to work for what they want. If they do not get that mention I think it could be a problem espeacilly when they get older and they think everything is going to come easy and in reality it is not so they need to learn that lesson, before it is to late and they need to understand that they can not be selfish so I am with you. It sounds like you do not have back up from there dad which is sad. I think it sucks that you have to be the bad guy, but you are a responsible parent it sounds to me. So keep doing what your doing and I think they will be ok.
ReplyDeleteHello there dee. I definatly do not think that you are overreacting. This happened with my little brother. HE had a older buddy friend like a dad figure who could spend more money on him than our grandma could and he would expect her to do the same as him. This made her feel like crap I cant offer adivce on how to fix this but i wish you all the best of luck...
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